My oldest sister is a rehabilitative counselor at St. Mary's Hospital in Tucson, Arizona. She's one of few people I know that actually loves her job. Whether she was drawn to her profession by her (loving yet) no nonsense attitude or developed such an attitude because of it, one thing she doesn't allow her roster of patients to do is wallow; a roster that includes patients of all ages and ethnicity and, most notably, all circumstances from car accident victims to stroke victims to victims of simple illnesses that unfortunately took life-altering turns. Her job? Help them assess the situation, accept the situation, and develop a plan to toward a "new normal" situation, in spite of their circumstances.
In order to do so, discussing her patient's past is often a part of her understanding how they got where they are and in figuring out what their next move should be. Recently, on one of our many daily phone calls, she shared the details of her day, which included a patient who was more focused on all of her life's past ills as opposed to the future she needed to be working toward. Again, something that goes against everything my sister believes in. And so her words to the patient at the end of their discussion were simple and profound: "Life is just a deck of cards. We're all given a stack when we get here. But how you play them is up to you and the only thing that matters in the end." Her words were not words we've never heard before, yet, reflecting on them often is something we could certainly benefit from.
Life is too short to perseverate on our ills. In the end, it all comes down to what you'll do with those cards you're dealt; how you'll play each one; and--just like in the game of Spades--utilizing those "partners" placed in your life, be it family or friends, to help you on your road to success. So, the next time you find yourself exuding too much energy wallowing over the situation you're in or even what got you there, turn that misery into the strategy you need to create a winning hand for yourself. You only get one deal in life. Make sure you do you best to run a Boston with it. (That'll make perfect sense to my true Spades players...(wink).)