Making Way for Greater

I love a life lesson that presents itself unexpectedly and, in the spirit of giving, the holiday delivered me one just in time for the new year. However, this lesson started back in summer as I was gathering belongings for an outdoor music event and went into my shed to retrieve a lawn chair. Although my shed was somewhat full of storage at the time with items ranging from rakes to shovels to seasonal wall paintings to decorations, I do my best to keep it organized, which is why it didn’t take me long to notice something was “off.” And that’s when I saw it: balls of cotton tuft from my patio cushions! Then shreds of material from my holiday wreaths. Then fragments of plastic from the heavy-duty bags that held my ornaments. And then I knew: something or some things had been in there having the time of their life. Cue me slamming the door shut and preparing for my next course of action.

Fast forward to hiring a wildlife removal company who luckily came the next day and confirmed what I had suspected: a band of raccoons and/or squirrels created an entry point in the upper roof area and made their way into to look for food, shelter, or nesting materials and left behind a mess. The wildlife removal agent was kind enough to help me take everything out of the shed and then he suggested I toss most of those items due to possible contamination that could result in raccoon roundworm. Say less. And so I spent the afternoon bagging and tossing items and scrubbing every part of my shed clean that I could. And let’s just say my shed was the cleanest, emptiest, and most organized it had ever been. I thought no more about the matter until a few weeks ago when I was preparing to hang Christmas decorations and went to retrieve them, which included my beautiful, beloved door wreath. Then I remembered: it had been discarded in the mass purge! And then my heart sank.

The new, improved wreath!

I had that wreath for years and loved it with its large gold bow and red poinsettia leaves, that always garnered compliments from neighbors. And for a pinch of dazzle, I added timer-controlled lights to it to give it some extra flair. My wreath was always the last decoration I hung before flipping the switch on trees, candles, and window decorations to officially mark the start of the season. And now I was down one major piece of holiday elegance; the welcoming centerpiece to my home. I immediately jumped online and began my search for a replica. Some options looked promising but reviewers said, “don’t do it; it’s a mess.” Others were beautiful but would not arrive until weeks later. I was so bummed that my search was proving fruitless and then I saw it: a beautiful, red, green, and gold wreath with TWO festive bows and which came with blinking lights already pre-installed. I took my chances and ordered it. Two days later it arrived. And not only was it more beautiful than it appeared in pictures, it was also more stunning than the wreath I previously had. After I hung the wreath and stood back to admire its beauty, I was even more grateful for the additional gift I was given in the lesson that came out of the whole ordeal: don’t be afraid to let go and make way for greater.

Whether it’s something as insignificant as a Christmas wreath or as a monumental as a career change, we often accept what we have and where we are as the best we can get, giving no thought to reaching for the greater the Universe may want to give us instead. We replace faith with fear, courage with complacency, and deliberation with doubt, missing the bounty of blessings that may be waiting for us if only we let go and let God. At this very moment, it’s also not lost on me that my morning devotional reading was from James 2, which primarily speaks of the peril of favoritism instead of fairness, but it also contains the popular verse, “Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead….” (James 2:17). In translation, you can believe all you want but unless you put action behind that belief, it’s all for naught.

Furthermore, as we close out 2025 (a 9 year), we welcome in 2026 (a 1 year), numerology speaking. According to “Creative Numerology,” the 1 is a journey of change, new beginnings, independence, and becoming who you really are. Further, it states “the 1 year is a time of new interests, experiences, goals, and understandings: about life, about you, where you have been, where you are now, and where you would like to be. And, because so much drastic change is required, you will also be learning the meaning of courage.”

At the start of this new year, I am excited about what awaits not just me but all of us who are courageously letting go of what was and being faithfully open and welcoming to what is to come: the next and the new; the bigger and the better; those things that will grow, stretch, and shape us over the next decade that calls us into being our best selves boldly, unapologetically, and respectfully. And I also wish that for all of us, it won’t take calamity to move us forward—like a band of wild raccoons destroying a shed—but that instead we’ll simply acknowledge those whispers and celestial tugs at our heart from the universe bravely calling us to move and pushing us forward into our next successful realm. Therefore, in closing, I’ll share a poem from Polish-French writer, poet, and playwright Guillaume Apollinaire that has changed my life in ways unspeakable whenever fear is rearing its head and which I revisit whenever I need to be reminded of the power that lies within us if only we trust and believe:

“Come to the edge," he said.

"We can't, we're afraid!" they responded.

"Come to the edge," he said.

"We can't, we will fall!" they responded.

"Come to the edge," he said.

And so they came.

And he pushed them.

And they flew.”

Wishing each of you a happy and blessed 2026 that takes us all on a joyous "flight" filled with prosperity, peace, and purpose! We got this!

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More Than Enough: A Tribute to Malcolm-Jamal Warner

Here we are yet again. Culturally rocked to our core by another fallen icon. A high school crush. An adopted brother. Everyone’s favorite cousin in their head—Malcolm-Jamal Warner. 

Fortunately, unlike most, I did not learn of his tragic passing from the often abrupt and unwelcoming news that opening our respective social media apps unwillingly launches us into each day. In fact, it was a rare day that I needed the noise silenced and logged into nothing. What I received instead was a call from my sister whose conversation opened with a question we’ve both asked each other more times than we care to count over the years when the untimely passing of an icon rocks us to the core: “Did you hear who passed?!  

Michael. 

Whitney. 

Prince. 

Kobe. 

Chadwick. 

Malcolm….

Ironically, it’s often the loss of those icons who aren’t intentionally in our faces; the ones not commanding every moment or needing constant adoration that hits the hardest. It’s something about those modest yet illuminating souls that seem both related and relatable, like that HBCU professor uncle that shows up for Thanksgiving dinner or the entrepreneurial goods-baking aunt that makes a rare appearance at the family reunion that are those persons who are doper than they ever realize but who elevate just from their mere existence; by showing up in those familiar places, departing wisdom, and showering us with love. When that effortless outpouring and tangibility leaves a space, a void is indeed felt whether you knew them personally or simply watched them on TV. And that is what Malcolm meant to me and so many of us left in the sunset of his tragic passing on July 20, 2025.

It's a void that has hit me harder than I expected, much like the painstakingly heartbreak I felt from the death of movie star-yet-fellow-Howard-University alumna Chadwick Boseman in 2020. Perhaps with Malcolm, the pain is compounded by my habitual daily routine of watching the 80s award-winning television institution known as “The Cosby Show," which cemented Warner--and all of those Cosby kids--in a forever place in our hearts and as a permanent relic of our childhoods despite the swift passing of time. Yet having not deep dived into the many lives Malcolm carved out for himself post child actor to adult star to poet to musician to podcaster to husband to father, whenever and wherever his face appeared, he still felt familiar; comforting; tangible—a superpower in itself particularly in an industry known for stripping (child) actors of any respectability or normalcy. And for which countless celebrity peers have all praised him for being: that all-around good dude who took the time to encourage others, depart wisdom, or simply flash that all-too-familiar smile, which will undoubtedly be cherished and missed the most.

Not surprisingly, a plethora of clips have flooded social media the past few days posthumously paying tribute to and giving us more glimpses into the many facets of Malcolm’s life. Yet most notably for me was a snippet of a 2017 interview with late famed journalist Larry King posted on Instagram by Oscar- winning actress Viola Davis. In it, King closes his interview with a series of rapid-fire questions posed to Warner ranging from weirdest job he ever had to the actor he most wished to work with (it was Davis, by the way, most likely motivating her to share the video). However, most haunting yet most humane was one of King’s concluding questions to Malcolm: 

“Tell me something people don’t know about you?”

Malcolm’s answer: “I have more of a struggle than people realize with owning that I’m enough….”

Unfortunately, it’s usually not until we leave this earth when the best speeches, accolades, and adorations are heaped upon us. When we’re no longer here to hear those impactful sentiments that we might have used as motivation to achieve our next goal or as the acknowledgement we needed to hear to fully settle into the satisfaction of what we’ve already accomplished. Instead we struggle with imposter syndrome; the imprisonment of ego; the suffocation of delusions of grandeur; and the unfashionable nature of faking it 'til we make it, making it oddly comforting to know--despite his celebrity--Malcolm may have juggled and been saddled with those same doubts many of us share, unknowingly moving through time and space, blindly unaware of exactly who he was and what he meant to so many: Trailblazer. Icon. Star. Family Man. Human.

Yet for him—like for all of us—my prayer is that he eventually found that assurance that ultimately silenced the wondering. I suspect, as most parents do, that was ushered in by the simple joy of raising his only child—a love he displayed in a impromptu social media video he posted in which he wore a lone dandelion behind his ear given to him by his 8-year-old daughter; a daughter who we are now learning he was with just moments before on that tragic day--a day when fate transitioned him into a guardian angel for her and all of those he loved. Eternally still loving. Still watching. Still giving. 

Enough. Malcolm, you were. 

Rest in peace, brother, and thank you for your legacy but more so for being a steady reminder of what a cool, calm, collected, talented, and culturally aware Black Man looks like in a time when the world wants us to forget the relevancy, power, and impact of such. From sporting your infamous Gordon Gartrell shirt as Theodore Aloysius Huxtable to donning scrubs as Dr. AJ "The Raptor" Austin to belting out tunes as the front man of Miles Long to so many other countless accolades, your star will forever shine brightly for all of us who need a reminder that when all else fails, consistency, authenticity, and integrity is not only sufficient—it’s the standard. 

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Hold On: Turbulence Ahead

Sometimes nature gives us the simplest reminders. As I departed for a mid-winter cruise vacation recently, it would be safe to say that with the recent tragic midair collision of American Airlines Flight 5342 and an Army helicopter near Washington D.C.'s Ronald Reagan National Airport on February 3rd--the deadliest U.S. air disaster since 2001--frighteningly followed by a few half a dozen more plane collisions or near misses, my usual love for flying was tempered. Relatively, in always being an anxious take off and landing kinda girl, my already heightened anxiety was elevated by an unexpected rainy, foggy morning. Add to that a late departure thanks to a tardy flight attendant and another delay on the tarmac due to the pilots awaiting a lift off command from the destination airport (never heard of that before) and I was seriously thinking I should’ve packed my Bible and checked the gift shop for Rosary beads beforehand. But armed with morning prayer and, as always, faith, as the rain continued to blanket the cabin windows, I decided to let go and let God. I closed my eyes, inhaled, deep exhaled, and leaned back into the ascension. 

Less than five minutes later I opened my eyes to a clear sky and, dare I say, sunlight?! I’m often tickled by the reminder that when flying at 30,000 feet, you are most likely above storm clouds and any turbulence experienced on the way up quickly becomes a thing of the past. This realization was the perfect reminder for me—and for whoever needs to hear this at this moment in history—in what is shaping up to be one of the most turbulent times citizens of this United States have faced in this century sans the pandemic (ironically under the same "leadership" and a similar administration). Although no virus of the epidemic kind has shutdown the productivity of our country (God forbid not yet) the same uncertainties around job security, food scarcity, and potential stock and housing market crashes abound. The feelings of hopelessness and helplessness have begun to take root. And dreams for any normal tomorrows have been suspended indefinitely. The question that ultimately beckons: So what do we do in this meantime? In the words of my late father, “Hang in and hold on.” 

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As if the coincidental nod from nature was not enough of a reinforced reminder, on the last day of the cruise, I took in a session entitled "For Women Only" led by female artists who headlined the cruise from Grammy-winning percussionist Sheila E. to Grammy-nominated R&B/Jazz singer Maysa--a session not about music, the business, or entertainment, but for women to exhale, lay their burdens down, and discuss surviving in these unpredictable times, while also being reminded of the importance of sisterhood and supporting one another but not at the sacrifice of self care. Yet, in the blink of an eye, those words were put to the ultimate test when an audience member underwent a medical emergency forcing the session into a frenzy and then an eerie halt. 

As event and ship staff broke into action administering aid to the woman, a spiritual stillness fell over the room. Without prompting, someone began to pray out loud, and arms were extended outward toward the woman in spiritual solidarity. At the conclusion of the prayer, the proverbial "fellowship baton" was passed and another woman broke into the familiar gospel song, "I Love You (Lord Today)" that everyone quietly yet reverently joined in singing. Empathetic tears began to fall down attendees faces and comforting hugs were shared between attendees who mere minutes before were strangers but who now felt like family. As the woman was stabilized and prepared to be taken to the infirmary for further observation, the purpose of the session took on a new, more tangible meaning as the power of unity was realized in real time, blessing many of us in ways we never expected, and further motivating me to pen this blog post although I had already drafted the first half with clearly no inkling of what was to come. 

So, yes, in these unpredictable times, we will pray. But we will also remember to practice self care. The journey may be long and tiresome, so we must also eliminate dead weight in the form of everything from toxic relationships to unnecessary expenses to literal tangible baggage and clutter that will “weigh down our flight” and crowd clarity of thought. We must remind ourselves to invest in the social capital of those villages that support us and tap into those networks that inform us and speak truth to power. We must turn our face towards whatever “rainbows” we can find be it our favorite book or our favorite song or simply a walk through our favorite park. We must shout like no one’s listening but also take time to dance like no one’s watching. We must create and advocate without abandon. We must turn up the volume as loud as we can on positivity wherever and whenever it emerges to drown out the noise of fear and negativity. And we must also plan as best we can for tomorrow but not at the expense of finding what we can appreciate today. And, as the old folks say, trust that “trouble won’t last always.”

As author Robert Fulghum once said, "Peace is not something you wish for, it is something you make, something you are, [and] something you do.... ” Yes, we are a resilient people. It is the gift of our ancestors and the torch that lights our tomorrow. And, yes, it’s going to be a bumpy ride, but we must remain steadfast in protecting our peace in the meantime as we wait to ascend to a familiar place once again where the sun shines ever so brightly just above the clouds. Stay strong, everyone.

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Happy 50th to Hip Hop (and Me) – A Deferred Requiem

At first glance, one might think I’m out of touch with hip hop in giving it its 50^th birthday props a year late and on the eve of its 51^st. But fret not music historians: I am fully aware of its inception especially since hip hop and I came into the world in the same year, same month, a mere 17 days apart. However, I approached the recognition of both milestones similarly: with no over-the-top celebrations or blowout events, much to the surprise of family and friends. Now don’t get me wrong: I did use an annual gala headlined by hip-hop legends a few days before my birthday to “turn up” if you will, which was actually perfect as it embodied the two things that best define me: having a good time and giving back. But, for reasons I’m not able to fully articulate, some things just seem too big to possibly ruin with an all-encompassing celebration that might not meet the magnitude of the moment and diminish the beauty of prolonged reflection of all that’s been gained. Which is exactly how I feel about hip hop….

Like life, the long, layered, complex history of hip hop is made of so many milestones—super highs and devastating lows—that defined and catapulted its existence from its August 11th inception in the Bronx to the universal main stage. From its first recognition by the Grammys in 1989 (with DJ Jazzy Jeff & the Fresh Prince’s win for Best Rap Performance for their hit single, "Parents Just Don't Understand) to Jordan 'Juicy J' Houston’s Oscar win for Best Original Song in 2006 (with "It's Hard out Here for a Pimp" from 'Hustle & Flow) to it first induction into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 2007 (with Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five), hip hop has always poised itself to “shake the table.”

And then there would be those milestones we might take for granted but that were equally as pivotal in bringing hip hop to the masses starting with 1983’s Wild Style—regarded as hip hop’s’ first motion picture—, 1984’s Breakin’ and Beat Street, and 1985’s Krush Groove, all laying the eventual profitable groundwork for hip hop on the big screen, as reflected in recent years with 2015’s Straight Outta Compton that amassed $60.2 million dollars at the box office its opening weekend. And it’s no doubting that hip hop’s charm on the big screen ushered in its presence on the small screen as well with the emergence of Smith headlining the iconic Fresh Prince of Bel Air sitcom in 1990 thus opening the door for Queen Latifah’s Living Single in 1993 and LL Cool J ‘s In The House in 1995. 

And if we’re continuing to talk firsts, we can’t forget the ladies who birthed a new kind of life into hip hop from pioneers like rapping trio The Sequence fronted by rapper-turned-singer Angie Stone to Roxanne Shante, credited with spittin’ the first diss track with “Roxanne’s Revenge” in response to UTFOs “Roxanne Roxanne,” to again the Queen herself (Latifah) as the first hip hop artist to own a production company, host a talk show, and be nominated for an Academy Award. Mic drop literally. However, like the oft painful unpredictability of life, there also would be those loses along the way toward building a legacy that felt personal and that changed the course of its history forever from the murders of Pac and Big to the untimely passings of Heavy D and Dilla and Phife and Prodigy and Left Eye and so many of our countless hip hop Kings and Queens in between. 

Yet, if there were ever any doubt of the influence that hip hop has on the world, look no further than this year’s 2024 Summer Olympics, where breaking (breakdancing) officially debuted as a competitive sport and whose global impact is so wide the final battle would see an African dancer representing France battling an Asian dancer representing Canada, with the latter taking it all for the win. 

But even with such milestones under its gold-plated name belt, hip hop has continued to evolve and expand, rise and fall, be celebrated and criticized, but throughout it all continue to grow as we make space for newer artists who—although some of us Golden Age of Hip Hop heads have not fully embraced them, just like at a family reunion—we welcome them to bring something to the table and we’ll just figure out where it belongs when it gets there. 

And just like at any family reunion where the love of community and fellowship is enhanced through the exploration of shared experiences is why the question “When did you fall in love with hip hop?” will always be an ample conversation starter, debate generator, and instant accelerator for a welcomed trip down memory lane. And so, before I conclude, I’ll answer it myself…. 

Being a Washington, D.C. native, go-go music is a part of our heartbeats from cradle to grave; a sound most of us 70s DMV babies actually can’t remember life without and, indeed, our first loves. So when this new “rap” sound with its rhymes and TR-808 percussions blasted out of our stereos, it felt intoxicatingly rebellious, which made us pre-teens all the more curious, including yours truly. Enter Stetsasonic’s 1986 “On Fire” album and its explicit B-side feature “Faye.” 

For reasons I’ll never know, D.C.’s WOL radio station latched on to the sleeper track and would play it regularly—late night—after spinning all of the current R&B and go-go jams of the day. With nothing more than playful rhymes from group members Daddy-O and Wise over beat boxing and with no instrumentation until their final bars when a campy Caribbean melody drops in, it could easily be one of the most simply produced hip hop songs to date notwithstanding Doug E. Fresh and Slick Rick’s “La Di Da Di” that dropped a year prior. And yet word about it in our pre-teen circles traveled fast, prompting me like many of my counterparts to sit patiently by our boom boxes (at minimum volume and out of earshot of our parents, of course) with our fingers hovered over the play and record buttons, waiting to capture it as our very own forbidden keepsake. 

Til this day, I can rap the entire song without missing a beat (don’t ask me to. I had no business being able to do so then; I definitely don’t now. LOL). But everything about it opened the portal that hooked me to hip hop from its colorful storytelling to its genius recreation of classics (now known as “samples”) that rebirthed and gave new life to classic hits and unknown gems. Yet while Stetasonic opened the door, it should be no surprise from a D.C. native that Salt-N-Pepa’s 1987 “My Mic Sounds Nice”—one of the first hip hop songs to pay homage to go-go—solidified my relationship with the genre that would become the soundtrack to a lifetime of magical moments that shaped who I am today. And I don’t see us breaking up anytime soon….

So, again, with so much to behold in hip hop, I asked myself, how does one even begin to celebrate it? I did so exactly how I acknowledged my birthday: in deep, year-long reverence and gratitude for all of the many milestones and accomplishments achieved on the road to 50 with a toast to the next semicentennial being even greater than the last. 

Mega producer Pharrell once said, “Don’t wait for the stars to align, reach up and arrange them the way you want [and] create your own constellation.” Not only does that sum up how I’ve curated my first five decades on earth, but it perfectly defines hip hop’s mark on the world: a 50-year constellation; illuminated through music, art, and dance; shaping and redefining culture; bold; daring; dimming its light for no one; every bright, ever shining, and whose impact and reach cannot be measured in one lifetime let alone on one day. Just like life. But for the one-time—from 1520 Sedgwick Avenue to Norway; from the Sugar Hill Gang to EarthGang; and from boom boxes to digital platforms, Happy Birthday Hip Hop! Don’t you dare stop.

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Love in Silence – A Father’s Day Tribute

There’s no denying how incredibly noisy the world—and thus our lives—have become. With more means of communication from cell phones to podcast platforms to Instagram lives, never in history have we all had so much to say yet be so greatly divided, disconnected, and misunderstood. It was evident I was not alone in my observations when on the first Sunday in June the interim pastor at my church shared that the topic of his sermon would be “Sheer Silence” supported by 1 Kings 19:1-13. Although the passage focuses on Elijah’s flee from Ahab and Jezebel to the wilderness to keep from being murdered, and God providing him protection to rest and to more clearly hear from Him, the greater message was that sometimes we simply need to slow down and quiet our lives enough to listen to our Father’s voice.

This takes on a somewhat different and earthlier meaning for me around this May-June commemoration of my late father’s birthday, Alzheimer's & Brain Awareness Month, and the celebration of Father’s Day. For those who knew my father, one thing they could all agree on: he was anything but quiet. The literal personification of a “mover and shaker,” my father’s 88 years on earth started on a quiet country road in New Zion, South Carolina but would expand to include military service that took him from Korea to Germany to Alaska; into the field of law enforcement as a captain in the DC Department of Corrections; and into politics as Mayor overseeing city council meetings to shaking hands with presidents in the White House.

And in between, he would wear the hat of husband; father to six children; community activist (creating programs for youth and seniors, and initiating scholarship funds for high schoolers); little league coach; and chairman of the church’s deacon board. And this was just a FEW of his accomplishments. Which is why when dementia turned Alzheimer’s robbed my father largely of his mobility and his communication in the last three years of his life, it was beyond comprehension for all who knew and loved him. Especially his children. In particular me, who shared a special bond with my father as his youngest child and who many joked was most like him (at family reunions, some cousins would refer to me as “Lil Eugene.”)

For those who’ve dealt with the evils of the disease, the most difficult by far is no longer being familiar to your loved ones. In the worst-case scenarios, being forgotten altogether. Your loved ones as you know them are no longer a part of your world. And you must quickly learn not to push back against this harsh reality but to surrender completely to their world wherever that takes the two of you. For me, at times, those moments could be gut-wrenching; at others, downright comical, such as my dad’s responses to doctors when they checked his cognitive skills through a series of questions. For example, when a doctor once asked him who the current president was, my dad replied without hesitation, “I am.” But you had to also know my dad’s confidence, humor, and—at times—arrogance to understand how I and the doctor were left baffled as we couldn’t tell if he was being serious or if the jokester we knew him to be was at play (we still don’t know. LOL). 

Me and Pops

And then there would be those quiet times when I’d be mistaken in resemblance for my mom—his wife of 51 years—and without words his face would light up when I entered the room, which was more than enough for me. There would also be those times when recalling the contents of breakfast was impossible but recanting memories from his childhood would roll off his lips effortlessly. But for the most part, there was quiet. Quiet bookmarked by a cheery “hello” when I would arrive to spend time with him and punctuated by a whispered “bye; love you” when I would leave. Yet it was that silence that lingered in between us that was filled with an abundance of love. It was a peace that can’t be explained. A comfort of just being in the same space together without words while the nightly news or Wheel of Fortune played in the distant background. A stillness that would envelop us until he’d drift off to sleep, and I’d depart for home that meant so much.

It is these profound memories that are constant reminders to me of how much power and love there can be in silence. That when words aren’t available, we are still connected by our hearts and an intangible thread that binds us even after we transition and leave this earth. And, for that, I’m eternally grateful. I often tell folks that as much as I would have loved to have had one more funny exchange with my dad; one more wisdom-filled conversation; one more random shadow-boxing session in the kitchen; one more request for me to write a campaign speech or edit a report before he left this earth on that chilly day in January 2019, the memories I carry and the lesson I gained about the power of love in silence was and remains invaluable. Just as God provided Elijah a moment of silence and stillness to reflect, connect, regroup, and proceed, let us be reminded to seek refuge from the cacophony of noise around us to more clearly hear those things and from those people who truly deserve our undivided attention and unconditional love the most. 

Thank you for the lessons and the memories, Dad. And Happy Father’s Day to all of those dads in physical form and in spiritual essence who were and continue to be the backbones of our families and our communities.

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